I got sad news one afternoon while playing golf. My friend
told me that my golf instructor got a job offer in Japan and is planning to
leave in 5 months!
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| My Golf Instructor Matt Wetterholm |
It hit me big time. Who would be my golf instructor then? Is
this true? I asked myself. Whom
can I replace him then? Should I go back with my old golf instructor.. nahh
I better confirm the news to him before I react. I
approached Matt and there you go the news is true. He might consider moving to
Japan. Did all the discouragement of moving, and talking him on just staying
here in UAE.
Am I being selfish? Yes! Even though the job offer might be
greener on the other side, I don’t want my old dear friend to go. I want him to
remain as my golf instructor forever! He became not just my golf instructor but
also became my friend. He became part of my lifestyle that is very hard to let
go. When I think back, I don’t want to have alternative or think I will find
better golf instructor out there. The better for me is him. And no matter what kind of imagination
I use of thinking a better instructor will come, sadness will always creep in
and I have realized that he is part of the irreplaceable people in my life
now. He already played a big part
in my lifestyle.
I have learned to accept that people come and go, there is
no such thing as “forever” in relationships because even us don’t live forever.
People change, some have short
roles to play in our lives and some have longer roles to play. Like it or not,
it maybe true but I do hope that the people I really do treasure in my life
will stay and remain in my life until we both shall live. Isn’t that romantic? Haha
I was having this conversation over dinner with my friend
June the other day and he made me realize of my fear of letting people go. I
get so attached to my dear loved ones emotionally that even though it is still
not happening, I am already affected and feeling down at the moment. I told him
of the “forever concept of relationship” that how I wish that the people I
really do treasure remain in my life forever. He gave me a very interesting
answer, that there is no such thing as forever in relationships, because
“forever” doesn’t exist, people die, people change, which is as we all know
that change is the only constant thing in this world and that our ability to
adapt to change will make or break us.
The law of the universe is
like a vacuum
Here is an interesting point, have you ever experienced
someone leaving your life and automatically somebody replaces that person
without you consciously knowing it? When somebody leaves, somebody
automatically comes; you cannot be left empty handed. I have experienced this
first hand always because in my case when somebody leaves in my life before or
right after that person leaves somebody already replaces him or her. Never left
empty handed. My hands are always full with loving people.
This is a very interesting point that comforted me when I
was talking to June. June by the way has been my friend for 3 years now. He is
a member of my “mastermind group”. We don’t talk about our usual day-to-day
lives. We love talking about the laws of life, not the typical religious or
dogmatic kind of talk but we both talk on a spiritual level that only “special
people” could understand. What I mean by special? Special in a sense that because
we read the same books, we are always on the same page all the
time>>>Got it?
It always helps to be inverse paranoid.
I’ve always been the
opposite of a paranoid. I operate as if everyone is part of a plot to enhance my
well-being- Stan dale Founder of Human awareness
institute
When you come to think of it, this holds true. People do
come and go in our lives. People do change and it all happens for a
reason. But its always nice to
know the reasons why???
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| Christmas in California 1998 |
Like why does my dad have to die with cancer?
Why do even cancer exist and not have much cure? or
Why are some people so petty?
Why do some people still choose to become poor?
Why why why?
But with seeking answers and self awareness and thinking to
be inverse paranoid that we gain an understanding that people do come to our
lives because it is destined to teach us some heroic lesson and when they leave
for good it only means their role is already over, because if they stay longer
we would have not grown. People who became part of our lives, no matter how
painful their loss maybe honed us to become the person that God wants us to
become.
Every negative
event contains within it a seed of an equal or greater benefit- Napoleon hill
When I come to
think of it, if my dad was still alive today, maybe I wouldn’t have outgrown
myself of being a spoiled brat. Maybe that’s not what God wants me to be. If I
have not changed friends, maybe I would still be very petty and would not have
valued more of the other people around me. If not for my pains in life I would
not have seek higher knowledge, higher spirituality and would not have not seek
personal improvement.
Pain and joy is just part of life. Learning how to respond
(not react) to what life throw at us, shapes us for the better or could be for
worse depending on which path we want to choose. Because our deepest pain is
our greatest drive to become better people, to move far greater to where we
came from or could also lead us to our greatest destruction if we choose the
lesser path. Imagine if I reacted
to my dad’s death in a negative way maybe I would still have the “entitlement”
mentality and just choose to be dependent on him or worse be into drugs and not
take full responsibility of my life or maybe I won’t be writing this blog anymore
because I have nothing valuable to share in my life!
I AM DONE WITH RICH
BRATS
It always feels so good to be spoiled by someone; by your
parents, by your lovers, maybe spoiled by your friends or even get spoiled by
your company that you work in. Being SPOILED is a good thing but turning into a
BRAT is not. The “brat mentality” that all people hate because they think too
proudly of themselves and see people around them as inferior because they think
they have more and have this entitlement mentality, “the I deserve to be given
this and that, are the people I avoid at all cost now. The “my parents are so
rich mentality and so I am better than you” maybe cool when we are in high
school, maybe still cute in College but can no longer be adoring when you reach
your working years.
People should take
full responsibility in their own lives when they reach a certain age at some
point no matter which back ground we came from, we all have the power to create
our lives the way we wanted to.
One person I really admire the most is my best friend and
“soul” sister Sara. She’s 23 years old (turning 24 this year), not have any
formal education like everyone else and learned from the school of hard knocks
but has numerous businesses here in Abu Dhabi and Amman Jordan, and some real
estate investments in Manila too. She didn’t inherit that from her parents
neither she got it from someone else but she earned the money by herself. She
puts her brother to college and helps her family at the same time. What is so
special about her? At an early age of her life she already took full
responsibility and already know the concept of making money. Even at her young
age of 23 (she started younger than this take note), she has given jobs to
several Filipino and Arabic people here in Abu Dhabi has already helped
numerous charities and will continue to do so. Humble by nature, you will never
hear her brag on what she does and what she has in her life. She’s very
religious as well and been living responsibly alone in her home. I have learned
humility and hard work from her.
You are the
average of the five people you spend the most time with –Jim Rohn
When I say I am done with rich brats, doesn’t mean I despise
my rich friends who may have rich parents. I have several friends of mine who
do come from well to do families but are extremely humble and hardworking. And
I do admire them for there humbleness because success doesn’t get into their
head and they continually to be my friend until now.
But what I do avoid at all cost are the “brats” because they
won’t teach me any humility, any hardworking abilities because they have the
entitlement mentality and for sure when I stay with them longer, a little
worldly success would surely get into my head. And these are not an admirable
trait of a person I want to become and be associated with.
I’ve always wanted to become loving, humble, fun and
adventurous and see each people as valuable not because for their social status
or race or through their religious background but as a spiritual being that we
are all one and connected with each other in some ways. There are no “betters”
in this world. We are all ONE and each person just has a role to play in this
world for us to learn as a whole.
We all have a purpose in life
that each of us has to fulfill that I learned from the Law of Dharma that determines our own destiny…
First is to discover our
true self (that we are all spiritual beings or divinity in disguise created in
the image and likeness of God)..
Second is that each of us
has a unique talent/talents that we are here to discover and that we need to
express. We are happy when we discover these talents and lose track of time.
Third is that we are here to
serve our fellow human beings with our talent. We have to give back to our
community with expression of our talents
When all these are fulfilled
the universe is on our side.
So how can we express and discover ourselves when we are
always in the shadow of our parents or even someone else? Take full
responsibility of your life and seek individuality.
IF FOREVER ONLY EXIST I
WOULD LOVE TO KEEP THESE PEOPLE FOREVER..(or until we both shall live)
My family are my friend and
my friends are my families-Jennifer
MY MOM
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| Africa 2008 |
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| Africa 2008 |
My BROTHER and his family
Blood will always be thicker than water
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| My Birthday 2011 |
I’ve only got one brother and one nephew and one sister in
law. They are my family; they will always be part of my blood. We may or may
not get along all the time but we will always have that link. That link that
will forever binds us no matter what. I remember when we were young and were
still living in the same house, we had some disagreement that lasted for 6
months, but we always managed to make peace with each other. You cannot just
easily drop or stay away from your family, because they’re from your bloodline.
The “I love my friends more drama”
won’t last because you will always find your way back to your family.
TITA NETH
My aunt how am I very fond of her. She’s always game
fore everything, a very cool person inside and out. She is my favorite. Why? Because
we have a lot of things in common, besides our undeniably good looks
(ehem..humble) she is also very sociable like me. Whenever we go to a mall or
some random party I always see her shaking hands or talking to someone like
some sort of a politician. Whenever she has a party at home, there is always a
battalion of people coming to that party. 90 percent of them we don’t know!
Setting some jokes aside, I love how she loves. She is very unconditional. She
has always been part of my life, and is always is through thick and thin.
MY SOUL SISTER SARA
How I adore my sissybella as I fondly call her. She’s my ever-dependable friend here in Abu Dhabi. No matter how busy she is, I just make that one call..I make that one call and she would drop and leave her work in the office just to give me that extra key that she has in my flat that I accidentally left inside my house. Yes I got locked out! There were several times that this happened and there are times when she was just so busy that she has no choice but to ask one of her staff to give it to me, but most of the time she does it herself. She’s the type of person that I can have an intelligent talk with and have some dose of non-sense conversation at the same time depends on our mood. If I am just in the mood for a debate, I will just call her and drop some religious dogma that I know she won’t agree with and we would debate about it for hours on the phone. We learn how to agree to disagree. I respect her so much and love her so dearly. I love what she always tells me, I have always loved you just the way you are, in which my feeling is always mutual towards her.
MY GOLF INSTRUCTOR MATTIAS
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| Sexy instructor |
At the start of this blog, my
storyline was about him so I couldn’t expound that much further on how
important he is in my life. He became not just a simple, typical average golf
instructor but also became an extra ordinary friend. He never fails to make me
laugh with all his crazy antics’ and his character as a person always reminds
me to be upfront, honest and real at the same time. I have learned to love golf
MORE through him, an extra ordinary golfer/instructor and a perfectionist by
nature. He made me become not just a PRO-golfer in the process. ;p I’m kidding,
but a forever student of golf.
ATTY APOLLO
“ We both
live like we will die tom and dream like we will live forever”
A lawyer and my life coach, my
truly irreplaceable friend that helped me find my purpose and rearranged my
goals. I didn’t know that a highly educated guy like him would be one of the
most humble and most open to new learning’s as he can be. He was never boastful
and proud about the fancy “title in his name” just like my friend Jun. He is a
very good listener and I always learn great insights from him. His positivity
and calmness in nature rubs off on me that I would want to be around his company
for a long period of time. He knows all my goals and aspirations in life and
cheers for me head on for it. Never hesitates to share his knowledge in
everything. From his way of thinking now, I know that he would go far. He is
truly the Robin Sharma of the Philippines
JUN DANGOY
An Etihad pilot by
profession, he has taught me to see through more of people and live through and
appreciate more of their character rather than their fancy title in the role
that they play in their profession.
There must be something about Jun that make both of us click
for 3 years now. We are both weird! We are weird in our conversations about
life, from quantum science, to the law of relativity to conversations with God,
we both click on a spiritual level. I love seeking advices from him and his advises
always gives me a better understanding of things. We are both student of life
and we both learn from each other. His solution-oriented advices plus our
“weird” conversations about the law of the universe makes me appreciate him
more. He is my great source of knowledge and a great believer of consciousness
thinking just like my friend TATO Malay.
MASTERMIND GROUPY
“We all need some fresh air every now and then to breathe some new air and gain new perspective because life in itself can become too toxic”
You will hear me quoting much from my mastermind groupy. I
call them my mastermind group or you can just simply call them my “fresh air”.
The people who are filled with positivity, who are nourishing in nature and
very uplifting and at the same time are the same group of people who believes
in me, encourages me to go after my dreams and have applauded my victories.
These are my special group of people who are both dreamers and achievers. The
people who have chosen the road less traveled and have gained tremendous wisdom
along the way. They both possess the qualities of an optimist and an
opportunist. My protection and shield from the “AINT IT AWFUL CLUB”
(naysayer/cynics) that we encounter in our day-to-day lives. Believe me they can be everywhere.
There are 2 types of people-
anchors and motors. You want to lose the anchors and get with the motors
because the motors are going somewhere and they’re having more fun. The anchors
will just drag you down. –Wyland, world-renowned
marine artist
PICKLES
Dogs are mans' best friend and so is my baby boy pickles...
College friends/ Etihad and
Non-Etihad Friends
I will always have fond memories in college., My life
started in college. I learned to drink, party, good times, bad times, dream,
study and travel with friends all at the same time. Some say high school but my life started in College. The
friends that I have gained in Assumption are the same people I would love to
keep for life. Truly unconditional and well bred. I love how they have given me
a surprise going away party before I leave the Philippines and change base to
Abu Dhabi. I believe that all the experiences I have gained in College have
honed me to become the person I wanted to become.
There are 2
fond memories I currently have in my life now. One when I chose to study in
ASSUMPTION and the other is when I chose to work in ETIHAD AIRWAYS and still
loving every moment of it.
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