Do you know that according to research
- 25 percent of the people you meet won't like you and never will.
- The other 25 percent of people you meet won't like you but can be persuaded to
like you
- Another 25 percent will like you but can be persuaded to NOT.
- Then the last 25 percent you meet will like you and stand by you no matter what.
This is a good guide for people pleasers out there. And I am no exception to it. Who doesn't want to be liked? I am sure we all do. As all humans are built to be liked and loved. But this research tells us that we will encounter people that falls into each of these categories. The challenge would be to stop trying so hard to be liked because at the end of the day it will just frustrate you especially if the person your trying to impress is part of the 1st 25 percent that you meet that won't like you and never will.
Be still and know because if the person really likes you will always stand by you no matter what. We only have so much emotional energy each day, don't waste it on things that don't matter.
I was having coffee the other day with a friend. He mentioned to me how much he failed taking care of someone else's money. The way he was coping with stress is by blocking all the negative people in his life, the people that can say bad things against him and to start fresh. Even his partner in his business turned their back on him. I feel sorry for him and I know that I am part of the last 25 percent of people he meets that will stand by him no matter what.
His business partner clearly is part of the 3rd 25 percent that likes him but can be persuaded to NOT. So I salute him for making the right decision in blocking all the negative noise around him because he has all the right to not allow everything and everyone to come in his life. Guard your heart because nobody else can do that for you.
If the conversations your having with your friends or family are no longer positive, hopeful, productive, faith filled then have the courage to stop them and not dwell on it otherwise you will just go around in circles. You can't live and expect a positive life thinking negative thoughts because we do become our conversations.
Always guard your heart, build up walls, stay in peace because we make good decisions when we are in peace.
in this kind of life especially in UAE where most of people under financial stress some are under the water for long trying to make the way up fighting the increase in prices of schools , rents and commodities and some have enough but pursuing more of what they don't have ,we cant expect much from people. i totally agree with you but even the last 25 may not survive due to life distraction and challenges.
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