One friend of mine has told me one afternoon that she was
rather feeling empty and unhappy lately. I asked her the reason why and she
doesn’t know as well. She just gave me a shrug. What I couldn’t understand is
in my point of view she was fine. She has a loving boyfriend, a great job that
pays her well and doesn’t have any debts or even the responsibilities of taking
care and raising a family in her shoulders.
This led me to think, is happiness really a state of mind?
Can we really attain a life filled with bliss? Can we really have more good
days than bad days? These are the things I have learned and have come across
with lately that there are scientifically proven ways to change how one can
really feel. Why am I giving so
much importance on happiness? And why do we have to pursue it at all cost?
Because it feels so good to be happy, and it gives us greater benefit far more
than we can imagine.
Scientific research indicates that happy people are more
likely to enjoy better health and longevity in life and that these people have
more friends and stronger romantic relationships. I know that you are waiting
for the money part as well and here it goes. Psychologist also pointed out that happiness increases ones
creativity, imagination, analytical skills and productivity at work thus
creates more MONEY.
But what really consists of happiness? Philosophers,
scientist and artists have been debating about the nature of happiness since
the ancient Greek times. To Psychologists however happiness only consists of 4
components. These are PLEASURE,
MEANING, ENGAGEMENT and FEWER NEGATIVE EMOTIONS.
PLEASURE
We all know the meaning of pleasure. It’s the
sensation we get when we taste a delicious food, when our team scores a goal in
football (ehem I do it all the time), when we have finished a difficult task at
work or the delight that we experience when we see an old friend. This kind of
happiness is about feeling good in that particular moment. This is called by psychologist hedonic type of happiness
This is one perfect Latte, I wonder who made this? hmmm.. |
MEANING
Finding meaning in your life is looking outwards
and connecting to something greater than our self. You can find meaning in your
career, family, hobby, religion or some political activism.
ENGAGEMENT
Engagement is something that we experience when we lose track of time and even yourself because we get focused at the task at hand. It can be while playing a musical instrument, cooking, finishing up a project at work or playing your favorite sport. It is whenever you lose a sense of yourself for an activity is called engagement or flow.
FEWER NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
Having the feeling of anger,
anxiety and depression can be inevitable at some point in our life but allowing
our self to experience it can prevent us from experiencing pleasure, meaning
and engagement. By reducing and possibly avoid it at all cost these unpleasant
and negative feelings makes it possible to enjoy more happiness.
These 4 components are all interconnected with each other so
whenever you choose an activity that is right for you these 4 components will
all just follow.
WHAT IS THE 5 A DAY PROGRAMME FOR WELL BEING?
“Choose activities that will work near the limit of our
skills and knowledge. If the activity is too easy, we risk boredom; if it’s too
difficult, we become frustrated.”
What are the 5 a day program for well-being? This is the
report made by the UK government for the mental health of the nation, and what
could be done to improve it. 400 experts have been consulted and these are what
they have come up with.
CONNECT
BE ACTIVE
BE CURIOUS
LEARN
GIVE
Connect
Connecting
is about building relationships with other people. When scientists have
analyzed the characteristics of happy people, it’s always the quality of their
relationships that stand out. -Professor Daniel Freeman
How lucky I am with my friends they make me laugh out loud
all the time. The quality of our
relationships plays a big factor in ones own happiness and well-being. When we
are always surrounded by positive, loving and with the funniest people on
earth, rest assured that we would mostly have good days than bad.
I remember feeling down one time and
one of my friends noticed it and he immediately brought me a favorite coffee of
mine at home and we talked for hours at my place. Before I know it, my feeling
down at the moment is already gone and long forgotten. It really pays to have
great and caring people around us. Even my mom and my sister are always
available for me 24/7 like a call center agent.
Be active
How great it is
ones physical exercise does in our body. Besides that it keeps us very healthy
and strong, it releases positive emotions thus improving the way we think and
feel.
Be curious
“Curiosity and
love of life go hand in hand”.
Always take the time to notice and savour the
things that is going on around you.
I love having a few moment philosophical talks about life in general
with a good friend or perhaps savoring the taste of a thick hot chocolate in
Milan on why it taste so good? By doing so, you’ll discover that there is so
much more to enjoy than you ever suspected.
Learn
"The excitement of learning separates youth from old age. As
long as you are learning you’re not old". –Rosalyn Sussman Yalow Nobel prize
winning medical physicist.
Learning new things, new activities thus kill boredom and
bring excitement into our life. I remember a friend of mine who is a housewife
and follows a certain kind of routine into her life for years. Sometimes she
complains to me about boredom every now and then but when I phoned her just
recently I felt a sudden excitement into her voice sharing to me how she got
into culinary school and is learning how to bake and the fun that she was
having. She is reaching her age of 50 and suddenly had full of life in her. I
really believe that age is just all in the mind. Be young at heart and keep
learning!
Give
"If you desire an hour’s happiness, take a nap. If you desire
a day’s happiness, go fishing. If you desire a month’s happiness, inherit a
fortune. If you desire a lifetime of happiness, help someone else" –Chinese
Proverb
I have recently been involved and believed in the project of
Choice to Change Charity group (www.thechoicetochange.org) and I do believe it
has benefitted me more than it benefitted others. It gave my life MEANING,
because it connects me to something greater than myself.
Giving our time, attention and energy in helping others
plays a crucial element into our well-being.
When psychologists have run a similar experiment, helping
others gives people a deeper satisfaction in life than say eating a box of
chocolate because the happiness it gives is more long lasting. Philanthropy always beats fun. MEANING
outweighs Hedonistic pleasure.
Even researchers in Germany who followed the fortunes of
thousands of people over several years have found that people who are committed
in helping others were significantly happier compared to those who are just
driven by material rewards and job success or even those who only prioritized
family, friends, social and political activities.
These are all based on scientific research and I suggest you
try these suggestions yourself. I have more things to share about happiness on
my next blog, but for now these are just some words that you can ponder. Until
then see you next time!
Source: You Can Be Happy by Professor Daniel Freeman
Another second to none article miss Jen!
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Two thumbs up again...
Thank u Leo! =))
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