I have met my good friend Brian from Ireland whom I haven’t
seen for so long. He visited us here in Abu Dhabi because he is now based in
Dubai. He drove for 2 hours because he wants us to meet his mom and his 2 sisters who is vacationing here in the middle east. WONDERFUL
PEOPLE. The moment he introduced his family to us, her mom and her sisters
were so warm, friendly and gave us a big hug plus kiss like we were their long
lost friends as well. I instantly liked them right there and then. Awkwardness
of meeting your friends’ family for the first time just suddenly disappeared
and put you at ease.
We talked and laughed for the whole night. His mom can
easily blend in with us and her sisters are so sweet and always have some cute
stories to tell. I am wondering, how come there are people that are easily
liked?
Are there really some set principles that make us really
likeable? I have researched and noticed these traits that makes us have good
impression on people the moment we see them. So I would like to share them to
you.
1.
Be the first one to say hello
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We all hate rejection, but we all know the
golden rule, give and you shall receive.
Be kind first. Be the first to break the ice! This is what I am proud of
my job as flight attendant, we are always the first one to say hello. We must
make our “guest” (passengers) feel welcome the moment we see them. This habit I
have incorporated outside my work as well were I don’t have any hesitations
being the first one to say hello to strangers.
Our interpersonal skills (which is a very important skill to learn) get
honed.
2.
Smile a lot
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When we smile a lot, it makes people open up to
us more and makes us more approachable. Remember first few meetings make
lasting impression. I smile a lot, up to the point where people can see my big
teeth and chinky eyes. I believe these makes a sincere smile.
3.
Use people’s names.
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Using peoples name makes them feel really
important. I admit this is my weakness and to a lot of people as well, but it is
not an excuse of not doing so. I remember one time, I went to Washington, and I
was with a whole group of crew going around the city, I know everyone’s name
except for this one person whom I was talking to. We both get along so much up
to the point of getting each other’s cellphone number. Because I was feeling
shy to ask for her name after a whole day of being together, I just asked her
subtly by saying "what's your nickname"? Works
every time.
4.
Look people in the eye when you speak to them
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I know some people who just cant seem to look at
you straight in the eye. It easily gives me the impression either you’re not
confident with yourself or you’re hiding something. Just by looking straight in
the eye by the person you are talking to gives the impression that you mean
what you say and that you are confident with it.
5.
Become a world-class listener.
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Everyone loves a great listener. Once we master
this skill, we automatically become the “relationship superstar”. Have you ever
noticed, we love that one person more because he/she just knows how to listen?
Because listening shows we are interested and not inlove with ourselves. I know
a lot of people like this who are in front of a group of friends and they just
love to talk, talk, talk only their ideas and their stories and rarely listens
to what everybody has to say. Their idea of listening is just waiting until the
other person has finished speaking so that they can interject.
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Everybody has ideas and every body has opinions but
everyone also wants to be heard. Be
sensitive!
6.
Offer sincere compliments. Giving Praise is free
- You
know why we easily loved my friend Brian’s mom and sister? They are
very quick to give people praise and sincere compliment. They listen
while
you
speak plus they easily give positive remark, “you are so funny”, “your
are
very kind”, “I love your friends”, “Jennifer is so beautiful and kind”
haha okay I am exaggerating the I am beautiful part, but
really they are
very quick to give sincere compliments to people around them. Not those
fake
compliments where people can sense that its all bluff but those
sincere compliments coming from the heart.
7.
Treat everyone like royalty and equal respect
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It scares me to see people who are only kind to
those whom they can get something in return. Being kind to everyone and I mean
everyone also mean with those people whom we think are small, like the waiters,
drivers, cleaners etc. By doing so, shows our true character especially to the
people around us. Remember small is big. How you treat the small people, always
shows how big you are.
8.
Reach out BUT NOT only when you need something.
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I know a couple of friends, who just remember to
reach out to you, only when they need something. Their favorite “first line”
would be “How are you?” and after you being so happy hearing from them, you
respond to their question “I’m fine what about you?” their answer would be I
need something from you or I need a favor from you or can you buy me this.
The question of “how are you” is
becoming overused especially to people who doesn’t really care how you are but
who just need favors. Make friends not just to get something, but what we can
give to that person. With that way of thinking flocks of help when we truly
need it will come right at us,
9.
Be extremely polite
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I love what David Beckham said in one of his
interviews in the newspaper. He said; “me and Victoria make sure that our kids
grow up being extremely polite. It’s the first thing that we ask our teachers,
if this is being followed by our kids in school”.
Saying
“please” and “thank you” is a must.
10. Be
humble
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One of my favorite traits of all time are the
people who are extremely humble. They may have reached the heights, but their
feet are still on the ground. And I
believe it’s so easy to win admirers and fans by this one trait if you really
do have conquered the world.
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I remember having a “VIP” guest in first class
and they happen to be the Chief financial Officer and shareholder of an airline
company, I addressed him “sir can I offer you etc” (I addressed him “Sir”
instead of his name because I honestly forgot his name that time, bad memory I
know) he just suddenly corrected me and said “stop calling me Sir, I’m a nobody.“ He definitely earned more of my respect for
this fellow and became a great story to tell.
I really believe that in life, you give what you get. Share
your knowledge and make use of your talent, your time, your money, your
kindness, your love to the people around you and life will always have its way
of rewarding you back. I know this firsthand because I have experienced it
first hand. God always favors the
cheerful givers.
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